Maybe you've just gotten your fifteenth rejection of the day, your boss just fired you, AND the cops pulled you over for speeding. It's arguably a bad day. So why bother?
On Wednesday, I got to go to a middle school class and talk about Self Esteem and Relationships. It was different from anything I'd ever presented before, not only because of the format, but also because of what I was trying to convey to the students. I started it off by having them write four lists:
1) Things I'm Insecure About:
2) Why I'm Better than Those Insecurities:
3) Things I Do Well:
4) Things I Like About Me:
Because I was given free reign of the classroom, I used the dry erase board and filled in my own answers. I talked about how the higher your self esteem level is, the easier your lists (2-4) will be. Once those lists start to come easier, List #1 stops having so much power.
|You just gotta think the world of yourself,|
So then the question was, how do we boost self esteem?
My favorite answer is the Accomplishment List. On those days you feel utterly worthless, remember that you're not. No matter what age you are, what gender, what circumstances you have done things that you have been proud of yourself for. It's time to remember what those are.
Here is a mini list of mine:
*Sophomore year of high school, I ran a 10 mile road race (it was a life goal of mine) AND beat my sister
*In college, I was published in the 2007-2010 editions of Zephyr
*I went to college, obtained a degree in Medical Biology, and had no help from my parents
*I bought my first car at the age of 22 WITHOUT a cosigner
*I ate three meals today
Once you recognize one thing you've done well, you start to recognize others. From there, you can start to allow yourself to be proud of these things.
And be proud of yourself, because sometimes, life is hard.